Helping Yourself
Depressive illnesses make you feel exhausted, worthless, helpless and hopeless. Such
negative thoughts and feelings make some people feel like giving up. It is important to realize that
these negative views are part of the depression and typically do not accurately reflect your situation.
Negative thinking fades as treatment begins to take effect.
Depression is not a character flaw that people can 'just get over'. Most people
who are depressed do not seek psychiatric help. They suffer needlessly. Depression is a treatable
illness. If you suspect that you suffer from depression please consult your family physician, a
psychologist, or psychiatrist for help.
In the meantime:
- Do not set yourself difficult goals or take on a great deal of responsibility.
- Break large tasks into small ones, set some priorities, and do what you can as you can.
- Do not expect too much from yourself. This will only increase feelings of failure.
- Try to be with other people; it is usually better than being alone.
- Participate in activities that may make you feel better. You might try mild exercise, going to a movie, a ball game, or participating in religious or social activities.
- Don't overdo it or get upset if your mood is not greatly improved right away. Feeling better takes time.
- Do not make major life decisions, such as changing jobs, getting married or divorced, without consulting others who know you well and who have a more objective view of your situation. In any case, it is advisable to postpone important decisions until your depression has lifted.
- Do not expect to snap out of your depression. People rarely do. Help yourself as much as you can, and do not blame yourself for not being up to par.
- Remember, do not accept your negative thinking. It is part of the depression and will disappear as your depression responds to treatment.